This is one word I feared all my life. May be because I am way too devoted in love and protective over my heart. The only person I wished for in my life was M.S. Dhoni- the perfect husband, a gentleman. Not his cricket, not his status, not his money- it’s his devotion towards Sakshi that made me fall for him. Even David Miliband is my kind of a person. Both are taken😒. Where do you find such men today?
I was petrified seeing my dear friend divorced at 26. Married at 24, divorced at 26. I was devastated seeing her plight when she asked me to meet up to seek guidance. She waited to heal and then remarried almost a decade later but this time she found the perfect man- her M.S. Dhoni.
Marraige today feels like jugaar- gamble right? I just want to date, I don’t need marraige, I fear commitment. What if second marriage fails, what if, what if. Fear is natural but our approach towards love, marraige should be sincere. Just because you have differences with your spouse, arguments in the relationship, communication gaps at intervals, long distance issues doesn’t mean you end your marraige unless love has died or there is constant abuse/toxicity involved.
Learn from your mistakes in past relationships and what is it in you that you need to change to have a good marraige in future. How can I be a good husband, how can I be caring, how can I provide, protect my wife, how can we both build a castle together, how can we learn new things together, how can we together serve the lord and accomodate each other. When you make it a work in progress and keep helping each other, focus on becoming good friends first- that’s when with time it will be a healthy relationship.
Marraige is for companionship- it’s a spiritual union where accomodation and respect for each other should replace expectations. Even if marriage ends, that is not the end of life. Always try to make peace with your person because when it gets ugly you carry baggage, trauma and a damaged soul. Help each other move on peacefully and gracefully. If you found love again but your ex hasn’t, help them, don’t fight them. Care for them.
And, don’t close your heart towards receiving love again. At the same time, don’t judge others who go through multiple failures in their relationships. Let them find love. Oh’ he is twice divorced- don’t do that. If divorce is what you are fearful of, the best way to have a secure marraige is to stay devoted to your person and accomodate- do hell with the opinions of others who interfere in your happy relationship.
True love is never about yourself or even us- in devotion it is always about the other person and that is why it lasts lifelong✍