What we earn by ourselves is ours- nothing else belongs to us because it is not something we have worked for. Be greatful if God blesses you with something in the form of inheritence. Be greatful if your parents gift you something. Nothing wrong in asking for help and support however don’t fight for something that you have not worked for.
Not everywhere, but especially in India it is observed that major share of family inheritence is given to sons, and daughters are to be taken care of by their husbands- but this approach has to change somewhere. The logic here is that sons take care of parents hence they deserve it all- No. Parents are never a liability, they are our responsibility.
How parents choose to share their wealth is their choice however if both children are wise, I don’t see any reason why parents should not share their inheritence with their daughters too. My son is law is rich – so what? Never leave your daughters at the mercy of their husbands. If you have enough, share equally and ask both children to take care of each other, help each other in times of need- that’s how you groom them.
I’ve seen families where brothers with a sense of entitlement seek to recieve everything from their parents and exclude sisters from receiving anything. They call their sisters for a signature – NOC? Your moral conscience doesn’t haunt you? Laaz nahi vatat ghetana?
And tell me honestly don’t daughters rush to their parents and brothers help in need? In many cases you don’t even have to ask- daughter/sisters just rush in. I have seen parents who gave nothing to their daughters but take a promise on their death bed- “Please take care of my sons”. My heart cried in pain- “putra prem”. Many of these sisters even today are living a very basic life but these brothers who took it all don’t see their pain? See how destiny delivers karmic justice- many of such brothers today, their businesses are in losses. This is how God takes away his favour over your life when you take everything for yourself.
So what is the approach parents should keep when they decide on how inheritence is distributed? Donate to charity first and rest share equally. Be fair irrespective of gender and marital status. Groom your children from childhood to take care of each other as one family. How many parents agree to this that daughters rush to their care in old age more than their sons? It’s in a lady’s DNA to care.
Your moral conscience should be so strong that when there is a cake placed in front of you- your conscience should haunt you when you feel greedy. Pick your share but make sure everyone gets a fair share and nobody is left behind.
When you take what’s not yours alone- your damage your own 8th house in karmic books of record- 8th house is inheritence. God will take double from you in next life. My Jiji maushi always says, “Smita, paisa he ek saadhan aahe, aayushyache saadhya nahi. Kadachit aamche Aniruddha Bapu sangtat he😊”.