If we were to ask how many of us are truly happy, perhaps only 40 out of 100 would respond affirmatively, while the remaining 60 might express their unhappiness. The reasons for this discontent vary widely, from failed marriages and financial worries to job losses and health issues. However, a significant contributor to our growing unhappiness is the prevalence of conflicts, arguments, and debates in our everyday interactions.
Conflicts arise in various settings—at home, work, in traffic, at social gatherings, and even during simple activities like shopping for vegetables. The core issue often isn’t the genuine problem at hand, but rather the way we communicate. The tone of our conversations and the manner in which we exchange words can escalate disputes, disrupt peace, and lead to disharmony in our relationships.
The consequences of this breakdown in communication are severe: health issues, anxiety, depression, toxic family life, and even tragic outcomes like suicide or violence. Some people engage in disputes, while others withdraw completely, allowing years to pass without communication, which erodes the beauty of relationships.
Ultimately, our communication style plays a pivotal role in determining the peace in our lives. It is a two-way process. If each of us takes responsibility for speaking politely and softly to everyone we encounter, we can initiate a positive flow of energy into the universe. By refraining from negative responses, we can foster a more harmonious environment.
Despite our efforts, if we encounter harshness, bullying, or belittling behavior, still it is essential to maintain a polite demeanor. If the negativity persists, distancing ourselves from such individuals may be necessary for our peace of mind. Let us commit to speaking politely as we strive to be the best versions of ourselves.
When making requests, we can use phrases like,
“Can we please…?”, “Is it okay if…?”, “Don’t mind can you please help me with….”, “Don’t mind…can I say something to you? I mean well for you…”, “I would like to know how you feel about the same, your views are surely welcome”.
When we respond, do so with love and care, “Sure dear, I will note the same”, “Actually I have a different view of the same, see this is how I feel about it…”, “Oh that’s fine, it’s ok if we don’t agree on the same, let’s go for a coffee”.
Disclaimer: Differences will be many so that doesn’t mean you have more coffee- Allergy hoil, jara japun.
If we genuinely observe our own behaviour we will notice one thing, when we speak to our bosses, our lovers we speak so politely but as soon as we reach home, our tone changes? “Tujhya maari topi..”, “Aaicha…”, “Tujhya nanachi taang!”, “Tere baap ka naukar hoon kya re”, “Ehh… idhar aa..”, “Saale teri toh…”, “Teri maa ki…”.
Still if you fight, don’t forget to smile at each other the next day😊. Nahi samajla? Marathit saangu?😄. See, I still smiled ha..😊.