God never says decisions cannot go wrong. God never says you cannot fall in love again. God never says stay in an unhappy relationship or marriage. God says once you enter into a covenant, you should be faithful and loyal.
Easy in many but difficult in some? Sentiments matter? It’s not always about us.
If we engaged a person into our life, it becomes our responsibility to take care of this person and make sure you don’t allow a third person’s interference in your relationship even if he/she is close. You as a husband and as a wife have to protect each other’s peace- mentally, physically and spiritually.
You know where infidelity starts in men? 5 years gone, 10 years gone now they find someone else attractive. It’s not that they don’t love their wife, but I like her also. Natural? She is more beautiful than my wife, she is more successful than me and my wife, she is more rich- if I go with her I will be able to see more success and get more attention- what happens here your mind starts chasing the next best even when actually there was no issue in your marriage. What is your spouse’s fault here? Suddenly now you start looking for excuses, to find flaws in your person that don’t exist as a way to justify separation. Here you are suppressing your moral conscience.
In many cases, attraction to someone else is natural and uncontrollable. So then ok you should still go and pray. Pray about it. Talk to God about it. May be the universe wants you to end your toxic, loveless marriage and move forward with this new person however that doesn’t allow you to trouble your spouse. No matter what always be kind and caring towards your ex-spouse because she is mother of your children, he is the father of your children. You spent some good years of your life together, didn’t you?
Now tell me everything is going fine in your marriage. Still, you indulge into affairs or polygamy or even promiscuity? Just because you like someone or feel attracted to someone? Go take them out for a coffee, have a good friendship but there is no need to cheat. There God notes- ok let me add this to this person’s karmic book of records. Poor wife trusted you every time you stepped out of your home for work. Could she not have been happy in a stable relationship with someone else had you not married her knowing that you are a cheat and your spouse isn’t? Who gives you the authority to waste his/her valuable years?
God doesn’t say stay in a marriage lifelong knowing that it has already ended. Karmic relationships are not meant to last lifelong. Did any of us imagine in the wildest of our dreams that a Bollywood couple could have had a divorce? It happened right? It was allowed by God because it was karmic in nature. They had karma to deliver in this life together, which is why God brought them together- karma delivered, God triggered ending. Both learned their lessons & handled it so gracefully that God blessed them with their respective soulmates.